Thursday, December 31, 2009

31st December, 2009 - a Blue Moon Day

31st December, 2009 is definitely a date to remember for me. It happened to be a blue moon day and an eventful day for me, both for personal and professional reasons. My love got the green signal from my girl friend’s parents. On professional front I was informed that in the New Year I will be getting to play a new role. I felt as if I was on top of the world. In the evening I had met my girl friend and walked hand in hand and also asked her to pinch me hard because it was an unbelievable feeling for me. I wanted to confirm that I was not dreaming. She did the honors and I was assured that it was a reality.

Our first meeting happened online in Orkut.  Soundlight a strange and different name sent an add request on Orkut. I wondered why but still went ahead and added her. The next day she happened to be online and I asked her the reason for adding me. She said that we had lot in common. I went and checked our mutual friends list and realized that we had 4 friends there. Two of them happened to be my childhood friends. One of them happened to be my ex-colleague. Then on we started chatting each day and with each passing day our friendship grew. She happened to visit my blog and was impressed and I liked the way she analyzed my articles and came up with questions that made me think.

One fine day over chat I gave her my cell number and we started forwarding sms and talking too. Our first meeting happened thanks to her birthday. I wanted to give a special gift that no one else would have given her as she was a special friend [not yet my girl friend :-)]. I gave her a hand written letter to her outlining the events that happened from the day that she added me in Orkut. I have done this only for a few special people in my life. She was mighty impressed and told me that she has never received such a special birthday gift. Since I was not sure how she would receive this gift, I had also gifted a wind chime and a chocolate [a backup gift you can say…….:-)].

After this meet, we started meeting quite often in the evenings. With each passing day I was getting closer to her as we had similar opinion on most topics that we discussed. Yet, I was holding myself back from taking our friendship to the next level. She was giving subtle hints indicating that she has fallen for me. I deliberately ignored those.  I know it was not appropriate to do so but this act of mine was prompted by bitter experiences in the past. She also communicated her feelings through a common friend but ensured that I do not figure out that she was involved in any way. The subtle hints gave way to a direct approach by her and I was put in a spot. I asked her for time to think and one fine day I said a yes* to her. That asterisk besides yes is not a typographical error. It implies that it was a yes but conditions apply. I do not wish to disclose what those conditions were. However, she had some valid questions raised against those conditions to which I didn’t have an answer and the yes* gave way to a YES.

On 28th December, 2009 I informed my parents about her and presented my case. I insisted that a horoscope check need not be done because I didn’t want to lose her for any stupid interpretations of planetary positions in the sky at the time of our birth. They were a bit hesitant but they knew that if I take a stand I am not someone who will budge. She informed her parents too. However, her parents were inclined to do a horoscope check. When I came to know about this I became concerned. My girl friend too insisted on not getting a horoscope check done. However, her parents had their way and a horoscope check was done. Luckily, even the stars were in our favor and 31st December, 2009 happened to be that special day when her parents gave a call to my parents to decide further course of action.

I am looking forward to the year 2010 to open a new chapter in my life with my life partner. I am sure each passing year will be filled with romance and love that only grows with time.

Friday, December 11, 2009

This one is for a social cause

Sunjit Saluja, a friend of mine who was my colleague, happened to connect with me on chat today. He gave me the following link and requested to vote for his idea:

Please check out the link and if you think it is worth voting for his idea, please go ahead and vote. Also, share it with your family and friends. This is for a noble cause and hence I feel we should do everything possible to support it.
Sunjit has taken this noble initiative because fewer than 1 percent of the approximately 70 million disabled persons in India are employed, which leads to economic disadvantage, denies rights and limits opportunities for the disabled to play constructive roles in their communities. He is part of an organization that focuses on making a positive difference to the disabled section of our society by taking care of training and placement for them. We Indians have yet to learn to be sensitive towards the disabled section of our community. They too have a right to live a dignified life and not be dependent on anyone. If we could help them get a job that helps them earn a living they will definitely feel motivated. Such motivated souls will surely make a positive contribution towards the society at large.

Sunjit’s organization desires to reach out to individuals and corporations for aiding their noble cause. I am sure one click on the “vote now” button at the above link will make a huge difference in aiding Sunjit achieve his plans.

I have already voted and have requested my friends to do so. I would request visitors of my blog to be generous enough to vote for my friend. Of course, you need to vote only if you are convinced with the idea. If you need more information before deciding on your vote, then please post a comment with questions you may have and I will make sure that they get answered.

Let us collectively work towards bringing about a positive change in the society.

Thursday, November 26, 2009

One year after.....

One year after the gruesome attack on Mumbai where do we stand? I don’t think much has changed. Few days immediately after the attack, everyone was talking about taking the government to task. Everyone wanted to change the system. However, no one could ensure sustained efforts to make a positive change. The spirit could not be kept alive. Now on the 1st anniversary of the terror strike, everyone is planning for candle light vigil at the site of the incident. Why? Is it because we care or is it because we want to show that we care? I feel that such candle light walk in the city does not serve any purpose. It is not going to help anyone except the candle manufacturers and candle salesmen.

If we really care, we should take some concrete action not just on this day but each day towards making the system more effective. How about fighting corruption? Has anyone thought about this? How do you think these terrorists could attack us? Corrupt government officials facilitated a safe haven for the terrorists. Driving license and passport could be obtained by accomplices who helped terrorists with all the information they required.

Government is no doubt responsible for ensuring safety and security of the citizens. However, is it only the government’s responsibility? Are we not supposed to contribute in anyway? Have we done anything in this regard? I don’t think many would answer in the affirmative. Yet when it comes to showing that we care, I don’t think anyone can beat us. Today we will raise our voice and tomorrow it will be back to square one. I know you might think that I am being pessimistic but actually I am being realistic here.

How about using this day to start something positive? A positive action that is not restricted to one day but for a lifetime or beyond. Some sort of an initiative that will bring about a positive change in the society and help humanity.

Saturday, November 7, 2009

A quote I liked

"Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new." -- Brian Tracy

I read the above quote and could relate it with everything that we do in life for the first time. The first word we said, the first step we took, the first day in school and so on. The list is endless. The uncertainty involved in knowing the unknown is daunting. The more time we spend in thinking whether we should do a task or not, the more difficult it becomes. To set the ball rolling is the most difficult aspect, once it starts rolling the momentum takes it further and further. So, is with our lives. It is always difficult to get started. Once you get started you always think why so much time was wasted in decision making.

Nobody can learn to swim through a correspondence course. You got to take the plunge. Sitting at the shore staring at the water can help you day dream but can’t help you learn to swim. Application and focus is necessary. Observation is the key to learning. At first we learn by imitating others. Creativity can only be the next step.

On the work front I have been successful in getting out of the comfort zone and do tasks that were challenging. That helped me move ahead. Not knowing something was never an excuse for me to stop being inquisitive. Today getting information is no longer an overwhelming task. Internet has made it very easy to keep ourselves informed. You need to know something; there are search engines that will give you thousands of pages. Social networking sites can help you connect with like-minded people. If you have the will, then no one can impede you. It is only you who can restrict yourself.

Unlike on the work front, I think on the personal front I have put some restrictions on myself. There are many tasks that I would have loved to do and still would love to do. Yet I have not taken that first step. Maybe next time I read this blogpost of mine, I will inspire myself to get started on something that I always wanted to do. ;-)

Wednesday, October 21, 2009


The topic of this blog post is prompted by the closing statement of an article I read. You never know from where you will get your next inspiration to write. No wonder reading plays a critical role when it comes to writing. When I read that closing statement, I could relate it to a very recent incident in my life and also to certain incidents that have affected friends or people I know.

Last week my dad had to be admitted to the hospital and was in ICU as his blood platelets count had dropped. I was required to go to the blood bank along with prospective donors to arrange for the platelets. While I was at the blood bank, I realized that it was not just me who was there for this purpose. There were at least 3 others in a similar situation. With help from my cousin I could arrange for the required platelets and my dad was out of danger.

My dad recovered soon and he was at home in 4 days time. A person who knows my dad came to visit him. He started inquiring about my dad's condition. Then the conversation topic changed as my mother inquired about his family. He was telling us about how he had to sacrifice his aspirations for the sake of his family. His dad was getting old and was alone at his native place. So he got his wife and younger kid to stay there and take care of him. He and his elder son stayed here and have managed through many hardships. He had to put aside his plans of improving his career as he had to focus on his son's education and other day to day activities.

The closer you get to a person, you will realize the pain that is getting masked behind the broad smile. You get to see the tears that go unnoticed. Every person you meet will have his own unique story to tell. I know of a friend who too had to choose a career different from what she aspired for, just to ensure that her family does not suffer due to the financial burden. Also, not to forget Ravi, the guy who sells peacock feather fans at Hanging Garden, Mumbai. A guy who started working at an age when kids start going to school.

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I know people who have sacrificed their biggest and possibly their only dream for the sake of someone they love and care for. A good singer who could have made it great sacrificed her dream because she didn't get the support from her family that singers now get. I am sure she would have otherwise given all the Indian idols a tough competition.

So guys, do not get bogged down in the battle of life. If you look around, you will find people who are fighting a more challenging battle than you.

I would like to end this post with the following quote by Albert Einstein:

“When you look at yourself from a universal standpoint, something inside always reminds or informs you that there are bigger and better things to worry about.”
~ Albert Einstein ~

Friday, October 9, 2009

Mind reading

I wish I could read people’s mind. Many a times they say something and mean something totally different. It seems everyone has a hidden agenda. Even close friends at times say things that make you think why they said something like that. Also, ability to read minds would be helpful when you would like to say something and not sure how the person will react to what you say. Is that person in a receptive state of mind? Will my words hurt to such an extent that our relationship could get affected adversely?

I am an intuitive person and can sense things that words do not convey. Yet my intuition may not give me clear indications every time. It may just give me a weird feeling when things are not right but not tell me exactly why it is so. This causes confusion because you know that something is wrong but not sure why it is so. If I could read minds atleast of people who matter to me, I could know why they are upset. I can then work on solving their problem and thus be able to bring a smile on their face.

Mind reading would also be helpful in deciding whether you can open up to a person and convey your heart felt feelings. If the other person is not on the same wavelength things may not remain the same between the two. Words always do not convey the feeling appropriately. However, at the same time if you knew everything before hand, life would become boring. The surprise element will be missing. You won’t feel the adrenaline rush caused due to uncertainty.

Though mind reading has its pitfalls, yet in certain situations in life you yearn for it.

Friday, September 25, 2009

Hoping for something difficult but not impossible

Life is a puzzle that needs to be solved by us. These days I am hoping for something important to happen in my life. It is difficult to achieve but definitely not impossible. Out of the blue this thought came into my mind and so I feel that almighty God is the driving force behind it. To achieve what I am thinking involves great risk. The personal loss I may suffer if things don’t turn out the way I want is something that I will regret for the lifetime.

God’s ways are irritating at times. He gives you a thought and plays with your mind. He tests your patience and your trust in Him. This is not the first time that He has done this with me. Making me wait has been His favorite past time. Both in personal and professional life I had been made to wait. In the past I have acted in haste. I tried to make things happen rather than putting the onus on Him. This time I am prepared to wait. On the career front things are better than expected. On the personal front, certain questions have been haunting me for a while now. The answers to which only He knows.

Today I had been to the doctor for a routine checkup and while waiting for my turn I read this statement on a poster on the wall:

“Purity, patience and Perseverance are the key ingredients for success”

This thought of mine is pure. Patience and Perseverance are two things that I need to focus on now. I am sure I will be triumphant in my endeavor. The jig-saw puzzle called life involves many pieces. Pieces concerning my personal life are the ones I am trying to sort out now. God jumbled them around and is making it difficult for me to locate the ones I require badly for finishing the puzzle. On previous occasions God gave me subtle hints. This time too He is giving me such hints. I still am not sure about relying on the hints because this time the stakes are too high.

Succeed, I will. My patience and perseverance will definitely get rewarded.

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

How did I meet one of my closest friend?

Work helped me find a friend who fits the definition of friend word by word. A friend in need is a friend indeed. My work required me to interact with her and I did not realize when this interaction transformed into a great friendship.

At my work place I was getting into a new role and to cope with it I needed support in the initial stages. This person was a stranger for me until then. With each passing day I had to approach her with my doubts and not knowing how she will react I used to approach her with apprehension. However, the way she went out of the way to extend help and support to me came as a big surprise to me. We had never interacted with each other before and so I was bound to be amazed with the way she went about extending a helping hand to me.

First impression never gives you the real picture of a person. I started believing in this statement because of her. Initially when we did not interact with each other I had formed a negative impression in my mind about her. I did not expect her to be a patient or hard working individual and definitely not a person who would go out of the way to help someone. Working with her I realized how much committed she is towards work. Even on a holiday she was available on phone without throwing any tantrums. Patience shown by her in my efforts to understand the work I am doing helped me learn fast and become confident.

I was just starting to enjoy working with her when things started to go wrong for her in the workplace forcing her to take the inevitable decision to quit the organization. I was not at all happy to see her go but then for her good it was imperative that she bid adieu.

Since then, we never got an opportunity to work together. I always pray to God that I get an opportunity to work with her again. It was fun working with a thorough professional like her. Our friendship is not bound by work anymore but then the experience I had working with her makes me yearn to relive those days of working together. I hope this wish of mine will get fulfilled very soon.